"I got my own car, house, and everything is paid for so why do I need a man?"
I'm sure you all have heard both quotes plenty of times along with listening to Independent Women "anthems" such as "Ms. Independent" and "Diva" to name a few. I am sure some men love the fact that you're independent and why shouldn't you be..(you're an adult & should be able to take care of yourself). However, it does get old when a man who is being genuine and sincere with his intentions and a woman hits him with the "strong independent woman" speech, thus pushing him away. The woman then becomes bitter and will rant about how the lack of "available good men".
Also a lot of times that strong independent woman "attitude" is usually a coping tool used due to past pain and experiences. Having that defense mechanism up will only push sincere men away and attract the more cunning and opportunistic men who see you as a "meal ticket" hence causing you to have G.W.S. (Good Woman Syndrome---see prior post).
You can be the "pit bull in a dress" in the corporate world, but know when to turn that off when it comes to dating and relationships. Fellas do want a woman who's strong, but also feminine & tactful (meaning allowing the man to take the lead & not emasculate him). So ladies continue to be self-sufficient, but without the attitude. Relationships are not about competition, it is about patience, team work, understanding, and compromise.
No comments:
Post a Comment